‘I used to only date people who liked the same stuff as me – until I realised why that was a problem’

I have a confession to make: for years, I only agreed to go out with men who seemed to like the same things as me. I could sniff them out a mile off – men who watched thoughtful movies that won awards at indie film festivals; men who spent their free time browsing the shelves at Waterstones; men who didn’t really enjoy any kind of sport and would never expect me to go hiking in the rain with them.